Recently I was working with my coach on identifying and changing my “core question”, also known as a “primary question”. Why would one want to make this discovery and shift? Well, our core question is the One question we ask ourselves on a regular basis, regardless of the circumstances. It is a question that can either help us or hinder us. Mine, as it turned out, was no longer helping me in leading the life I wanted to lead. What was it you ask? Well it was as follows:
“How can I be the best, and most put together in this situation?”
On the surface it doesn’t seem so bad, but when you dig a little deeper, you realize how much it gets in the way. It caused me to not try out new things or, if I did, I worked EXTREMELY hard to get good at them quickly. It stopped me from participating in conversations where I did not perceive myself as the “best” or “most put together”. I was tired of living that way and wanted to be able to ease up on myself, so I adopted a new core question, which is:
“How can I best support myself and others?”
This new question has been so liberating for me and has allowed me to further align myself with my dreams.
So think about it, what is your core question and how might you want to change it?
